“My ex asked for space in July, and he broke up with me, saying he loves me and I could talk to him anytime and he supported me, but when I replied to him, he ghosted me even when all I asked him was just to call me. Of course, I am in no contact with him. He had already started to follow a bunch of girls, including his old flings. He posts he’s moving on every week on his IG, I know it’s a bad habit but I can’t stop checking his IG and his new girls. I have a really hard time moving on, I’d love to watch videos for girls who can’t move on even when they know they need to, or if you could reply to my DM and talk to me a bit, it will be greatly appreciated. He was also abusive, verbally and emotionally, and also extremely manipulative. But he loved bombed me so badly, all the sacrifices and the love he showed me are holding me back…”
My dearest bad biddie,
You ex does not love you. If he did he wouldn’t have left you, ghosted you, and to add salt to the wound, flaunt his newfound freedom on social media knowing very well you are watching. In order to move on, you must first separate what he is saying from what you know to be true: that perhaps he once loved you, but no longer does, and that your job is not to dissect and interpret what he means or what he’s doing, but to move the freak on in whatever way you can…(cont.)
And how do you move on? You move on with the knowledge that just because your ex does not love you, does not mean you are unlovable. You move on slowly, ungracefully, through tears and anger. You move on by doing the things you used to love to do, but probably have a hard time doing right now. You move on by talking to your girlfriends ad nauseam about him until you feel like you can’t talk about him anymore. You move on by listening to girl boss songs about heartbreak and love and redemption. In other words: you freaking fake it until you make it…(cont.)
It will suck, you will want to stalk his every move, you will hope he will change and come back to you, but after a while, it will suck less. And then after a long while, but maybe not as long as you think, it won’t suck anymore. And there you will be on the other side: free from this guy that manipulated you, verbally abused you, and most of all, did not love you. One day he will be just another guy you dated. Until then, block his a$$ on your phone, on social media, and keep marching on even if you have a hard time seeing the path ahead.
Love,
Your internet hype woman
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