“Hi Anna! Hope you’re doing well and happy to see your videos taking off as they should 🙂I saw your video about not caring being desperate and I realized you were totally right. Being desperate gets results. I redownloaded a bunch of dating apps that I was done with lmao…Could you share me your favorites and how you swipe on matches? I feel like a lot of apps push people who I don’t find attractive at all and kinda miffs me. Also if you could do a video on getting men to approach you IRL that’d be amazing 🙏🏻🙏🏻“
My Dearest Bad Biddie,
Dating apps are a simple thing, though not an easy thing. They’re simple in the sense that, for the majority of these apps, it takes very little effort to sign up, create a profile, and start swiping left and right on every eligible bachelor within a designated radius of your location. However, as your comment above indicates, it’s not easy to actually find the eligible bachelors who don’t make you want to throw your phone against the wall and commit to a life of nunnery.
Whenever anyone asks me which dating apps I thought were “best”, I like to tell this story: I met my now-husband on Bumble, yet I also saw his profile on another dating app shortly after we started talking on Bumble. We could’ve easily met on Hinge, or Tinder, or any of these other apps if their algorithms had shown me his profile first. The best dating app to be on is all of them. Cast a wide net and you’re more likely to find the man who makes you want to delete your dating apps because at the end of the day, dating is a numbers game, and every bad date or cringeworthy profile of a man posing next to a Tiger just leads you one step closer to the right guy.
As far as getting men to approach me IRL, I never mastered this concept, simply because it is my strong belief that if a man wants to approach you, he will, and if he doesn’t, you’re better off not trying to make him approach you. It’s not about “a look”, “a move” or any other trickery that someone who may or may not want to sell you to make a quick buck will tell you.
Dating is a frustrating, heartbreaking, and downright depressing thing sometimes, my bad biddie, but here’s the thing: if you can make it past all the rejections, all the weirdos, and all the almost-but-not-quites, the payoff at the end is so worth it. One day, you will look back on these dating stories with your husband and see them for what they are: stories, a life you once knew and a life that probably helped you appreciate the life you have now more. But in the meantime, just keep swiping.
Your internet hype woman